As a child I hated mothers day. It made me sad to see all the mother filled commercials, and doing all the projects "for mom" in school.
I didn't have a Mom.
|My mother and I.|
But she was not part of my life. In my mind she left me when I was a baby. I didn't even remember her.
As an adult I know it wasn't all her fault that she was gone from my life. As an adult I know that my dad most likely played a part in keeping her away.
But as a child all I knew was my mom left, and I didn't have a mom like everyone else did.
Of course I had mother figures. I had my Granny, and Aunts that I loved as much as I could have loved a mom, and they loved me as much as their own children too I'm sure.
And there was my Mr Mom. My single dad raised me, and played both roles as well as he could.
As an adult I've still got conflicted emotions about Mothers Day.
As an adult I have my mother in law, who is wonderful.
I also have two little boys who are my whole world.
|My sweet boys.|
But I also still have that little girl feeling of never having a mom.
I also have a husband who does nothing to make mothers day special for me. My boys are too young to even know what the day IS, so it would be up to him to make it special at this point. (of course he doesn't do anything special for his mom either, so its not just me....)
So, I've never had a mother, and I'm not exactly ever celebrated in my own motherhood.
Meanwhile, there is a whole world of moms outside of myself.
We have a family member who lost his mom not even a whole month ago. He's still hurting, a lot, and the whole world is yelling Happy Mothers Day. Not that it matters how long ago you lost someone you loved. When their special day comes around the hole they left in your life aches.
I have friends who have lost children both born and unborn. I have friends who have had to give their children up for adoption. I have friends who desperately want to be parents but are unable to conceive for one reason or another.
Moms are great, except when they are not.
People love their moms, even if they are gone.
Moms are moms, even if they no longer have a child to hold.
|Moms from my favorite show. Bonus points if you know who they are!|
So, what are you doing special for you mom today? (even if its just in remembrance)
If you are a mom, is your family doing anything special for you?
Forgot a gift? No problem, send your mom or mother figure an amazon gift card so they can treat themselves to something nice.